What About Christians Dating Unsaved People?
I am very troubled about someone I care about dating a very nice Catholic girl who was my friend until she and a very dear Christian brother became inseparable. What also troubles me is that the church leadership is supportive of the relationship. I have already talked to all the parties involved numerous times about it and 2 Corinthians 6:14 and 15, but to no avail.
Here's what it says:
"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
"And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?"
At this point, all I can do is deal with my own issues about it. That is allow the Holy Spirit to settle the mess in my own emotions about it. Am I troubled because nobody is listening to ME? Then, that is my issue. Am I resentful? Then, that is my issue.
To care and to pray and to love are really my only options, but one of my issues is I am codependent. For me in this situation, it means I obsess too much about what other people are doing. Again, that is MY issue. I also feel that I am right about this. Again, MY issue. So what if I'm right? It makes no difference when eternal souls are at stake.
I do not believe that Christians dating unbelievers helps the unbelievers get saved. I believe the unbeliever's emotional needs are simply then met by the believer and they no longer seek the Lord. Meanwhile, they distract the believer from God's best for him or her.
I am pretty sure my objection is largely interpreted as being self-serving, and that my problem is that my plans were foiled, because the brother and I were in a songwriting partnership which went away as soon as the situation emerged. I interpret this as being the work of the enemy. Others apparently do not.
I am obviously disappointed about the songwriting partnership breaking up. I now have no songwriting partner, and it is much more of a challenge to work alone. Not nearly as much fun. However, I realize if God permitted it to happen, even if the devil meant it for evil, God meant it for good. He will redeem it and me in His way and His time.
Meanwhile, I unreservedly believe it was not God's will that this unequally-yoked romantic relationship come along and end the songwriting partnership. But, since it has happened, all I can do is pray. I would ask that anybody reading this please pray both for me and for the brother. And for the nice Catholic girl also. She still needs the Lord.
All I can say is our enemy is pretty crafty. Ah, but...the Lord is craftier. This is what I must settle in my mind. And let it go.
Thanks for letting me share...Any comments welcome.
The following is an interesting blog on Christians dating non-christians:
http://thegospelblog.com/should-christians-date-non-christians/
This one is really good. Called "Five Red Flags For Christians Blinded By Romance" Below the link is an exerpt from it
http://www.cbn.com/family/datingsingles/five-red-flags-christians-blinded-by-romance-miser.aspx
"…you’re dating an unbeliever.
Are you dating someone who does not have a personal relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ? Most Christians who hang onto a non-believer actually think they are the best chance that their unsaved date will ever have for knowing Jesus? Don’t be deceived. Someone has already coined a word for this false evangelistic strategy. It is called "missionary dating". Christian, you are not Holy Spirit Junior. There are no guarantees in life, and this includes the salvation of your current date. God gives each person free will. He waits to be wanted, and so should you. If you’re a believer dating an unsaved person, your date has not only rejected the Lord but also the Lord living in you. Therefore, he or she does not want ALL of you! You are God’s, and He is jealous for you. Any emotional attachment you have toward a person who is not on the same spiritual page as you, or vice versa, is an unhealthy attachment. Read and learn from those such as Samson of the Bible, and do now what you’ll otherwise wish you would have done later. Heed God’s Word, and be not unequally yoked. Yes, that means break up and move on."
Here's what it says:
"Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness?
"And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?"
At this point, all I can do is deal with my own issues about it. That is allow the Holy Spirit to settle the mess in my own emotions about it. Am I troubled because nobody is listening to ME? Then, that is my issue. Am I resentful? Then, that is my issue.
To care and to pray and to love are really my only options, but one of my issues is I am codependent. For me in this situation, it means I obsess too much about what other people are doing. Again, that is MY issue. I also feel that I am right about this. Again, MY issue. So what if I'm right? It makes no difference when eternal souls are at stake.
I do not believe that Christians dating unbelievers helps the unbelievers get saved. I believe the unbeliever's emotional needs are simply then met by the believer and they no longer seek the Lord. Meanwhile, they distract the believer from God's best for him or her.
I am pretty sure my objection is largely interpreted as being self-serving, and that my problem is that my plans were foiled, because the brother and I were in a songwriting partnership which went away as soon as the situation emerged. I interpret this as being the work of the enemy. Others apparently do not.
I am obviously disappointed about the songwriting partnership breaking up. I now have no songwriting partner, and it is much more of a challenge to work alone. Not nearly as much fun. However, I realize if God permitted it to happen, even if the devil meant it for evil, God meant it for good. He will redeem it and me in His way and His time.
Meanwhile, I unreservedly believe it was not God's will that this unequally-yoked romantic relationship come along and end the songwriting partnership. But, since it has happened, all I can do is pray. I would ask that anybody reading this please pray both for me and for the brother. And for the nice Catholic girl also. She still needs the Lord.
All I can say is our enemy is pretty crafty. Ah, but...the Lord is craftier. This is what I must settle in my mind. And let it go.
Thanks for letting me share...Any comments welcome.
The following is an interesting blog on Christians dating non-christians:
http://thegospelblog.com/should-christians-date-non-christians/
This one is really good. Called "Five Red Flags For Christians Blinded By Romance" Below the link is an exerpt from it
http://www.cbn.com/family/datingsingles/five-red-flags-christians-blinded-by-romance-miser.aspx
"…you’re dating an unbeliever.
Are you dating someone who does not have a personal relationship with our Lord Jesus Christ? Most Christians who hang onto a non-believer actually think they are the best chance that their unsaved date will ever have for knowing Jesus? Don’t be deceived. Someone has already coined a word for this false evangelistic strategy. It is called "missionary dating". Christian, you are not Holy Spirit Junior. There are no guarantees in life, and this includes the salvation of your current date. God gives each person free will. He waits to be wanted, and so should you. If you’re a believer dating an unsaved person, your date has not only rejected the Lord but also the Lord living in you. Therefore, he or she does not want ALL of you! You are God’s, and He is jealous for you. Any emotional attachment you have toward a person who is not on the same spiritual page as you, or vice versa, is an unhealthy attachment. Read and learn from those such as Samson of the Bible, and do now what you’ll otherwise wish you would have done later. Heed God’s Word, and be not unequally yoked. Yes, that means break up and move on."
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